By now, you should know that spending too much time with a girl during the beginning will only damage the attraction levels. This includes calling, texting, and e-mailing her too much.

Most guys have a tendency to worry that “they’re not expressing enough interest” if they ignore the girl post date; and so they bombard them with attention or assail them with questions like “What are yo up to?” “What did you do today?”

Try to limit the amount of interaction even when you’re in a relationship! Give her the gift of missing you, and wanting to relive the fun dates you two previously shared.

Giving an overdose of your presence will only backfire as you’re going to smother her. Let the woman breathe.

This may sound paradoxical, but stick with me here.
To keep the fire flickering between you two, you want to leave the fire alone every now and then.

The more you try to keep the fire alive, the more likely it’ll disappear.

One of the most powerful ways on how to make a girl love you is to maintain this distance.

The power of creating distance, is that it helps you create attraction with a woman. This also stems from one of the laws of nature – we want more of what we can’t have!

When you’re absent, you give her the chance to “think about you” literally. Let a woman continuously dream and desire for you. Let her wonder when you’ll call her again, and what you two will be doing together next.

See it all as a military campaign if you must. You have to be patient, and not rush to attack or win her over. Give yourself time apart from her so you can “focus” on your career and life!

If you make her wait a bit longer, you make her long for more, of you.

Here’s a general mechanic during the outset of any potential affair. In every pair, there’s always one person that will be chasing the other more. It’s up to you to decide which role you want to play.

Another truth you ought to know is that: As humans, we all love what is scarce or hard to attain. So, the logical deduction is this: If you want to be loved, be scarce. Play the scarcity card by creating a healthy distance and making yourself harder to get by remaining indifferent even when you’re with her.

Why most men fail when it comes to how to make a girl love you, is that they are too easy to get. Too accessible and predictable. If something is easy to obtain, it’s usually taken for granted, and soon overlooked and forgotten!

In the end, you will be victorious in the quest to conquer a woman’s interest and heart. This is one of the most pivotal methods on how to make a girl fall in love with you.

If you can convert a woman’s misery to ecstasy, boredom to happiness, then you’ve conquered half the battle when it comes to making a girl love you. This method itself may sound logical and easy, but when it comes to the execution phase, that’s where most guys fall off.

What women want is a man who can indirectly promise them adventure, excitement, and gradual increase to the quality of their life. This is when your “lifestyle” can make or break you. If your life revolves around your office cubicle, it’ll be difficult for her to associate you with “fun, action, adventure”. Most likely, you’ll get “white collar”.

Don’t worry. Although there are women that craves for the periodic adrenaline high, most women are generally chilled and will be content with a day where their stress levels and personal dramas are kept at bay.

Nevertheless, here’s a universal truth: We live in a working world, so most women are bored out of their minds. If you entertain a woman with a crazy anecdote – they will usually eat it up. They love having their imaginations and emotions stimulated. So bring on the adventure and spontaneity to her life.

Also, our society is full of noise, conflict, restrictions, and distractions. Most girls simply aren’t living the life they want – one which usually involves traveling to exotic places, exploring with their lover, or just making an impact in the world etc.

2. Pinpoint her personal problems or void at the moment. Yes, every women have these. It’s human nature. For example, we always ‘want’ something new. When we’ve got what we want, a new objective, item, or need usually arises or will inevitably be queued in.

My tip: Find the gap or her small secret pleasures or suppressed indulgences, play on it. Fulfill it, and she’ll forever be gratified towards you.

Warning: This doesn’t mean you become enslaved to being a solution provider. If a woman needs help with something beyond her capability, give her a little guidance if you have the capacity to – just don’t become start behaving subserviently and willing to cater to her every whim.

3. Empower Her. If you can make a woman feel a growing sense of self-control over her own life, you’ve literally won her respect and heart. Be her go to source for motivation. Give her guidance. Give her the strength to pursue her wildest dreams. Don’t just offer hopeful and vague advices like “You can do it…” but encourage her more by giving her concrete actions to take!

When you can instill a higher self-belief, you boost their esteem the right way which yields a greater positive response towards you. Notice that you’re making her feel good without having to flatter her insincerely with effusive adulation.

Stay tuned for more next issue.

Your image value is predominantly what a woman sees in you on face value. Women will always judge you by what she sees on the surface. Whatever visual cues first meet her eyes will be calculated to consider your potential worth to her. This enables her to determine whether she wants to be seen next to you, or spend time with you. All women have this pre-built filter inside them. They do this silently the first few seconds you guys meet.

I will break your personal image value down to three parts – which you should really assess and focus on. Consider this your “outer game” training if you must.

1. Make sure your style & taste in fashion appeals to your type of girl. What you wear, and how you rock your threads signify a whole lot about your social value and interests. It can either attract or repel. A model who works in the fashion industry, does a lot of high street and glamor photography will probably be more interested in a guy who’s got some degree of fashion sensibilities. Hippies will attract hippies. Like attracts like.

   A woman will always take note and see if these cues align neatly with her preferences and interests. Contrary to most women will say, women will pay attention to “your looks”.

   This also means that you should pay attention to grooming yourself. If you can’t groom yourself, you probably can’t take care of yourself. And if you can’t take care of yourself, then you probably don’t know how to manage a good relationship or business. If a man with a sculpted and toned body will always whet a woman’s appetite and ignite her sexual urges, why wouldn’t you want to accomplish this feat?.

2. Your overall body language. How you move your body, gesticulate, and how you behave during an interaction with someone else readily shows your attitude and character type. Do you move cohesively, and in congruent with who you are as a character? Women can easily pick up cues about you just by the way you move. It’s pretty much black and white: You’re either behaving in a way that’s increasing her comfort and sexual interest, or you’re causing her discomfort.

These three are external palatable cues that can trigger feelings of attraction, especially in today’s superficial society where a person’s initial worth is measured by his assets and how he presents himself.

Now be realistic, real attraction cannot operate alone with just these three factors listed above. There’s your inner and mental game that you need to work on. To thrive with the ladies, you need to think holistically on how you can sharpen your game in all areas.

To discover more on how you can improve your inner game to help you become an all around attractive man, check out my dating tips for guys

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